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Topic: Feel Better Support Group / I want to stop taking Benzos...help!

I understand where you are coming from and the only main way I have found to really help, is to stick with your ativan and give it a week or so. If that does not help, you really need to talk with your doctor as soon as you possibly can and really express your problems and concerns with him. I hope this helps you in some way and I will be praying for you

Topic: Feel Better Support Group / HELP PlzZzZz

In my marriage my wife is the one who loves to be in charge and a problem we have found is that she wants me to start having me be in charge and she is not adjusting to it very well. Inside your girlfriend may actually want some help, but to her that may mean she has to give control to you and that terrifies her. When you go to try and help her, do not try to do too much all at once, but slowly do some small things and then as time goes on, do more stuff.

Topic: Feel Better Support Group / Relationship and other troubles with parents

Hello there, I am very sorry to hear about what is going on with you. I had similar problems with my father and my stepfather. One thing about the hoodies is that most parents think that wearing something like that at dinner, means you are being disrespectful or just do not care about them. Like yourself, I also do not cry alot and when I do, it usually means something very powerful has happened or been said. The thing I have found is that most relationships between kids and their parents is that it is a very give and take type of relationship. Right now, your mom simply wants you to try and give more and feels that all you are doing is pulling away. Sometimes a small thing, like telling your mom about a friend or 2 of yours, can make a world of difference. My advice is to sit down and talk with her, and listen to her and when you talk, ask for the respect that you have given her when you listened and let her know you have something to want to say. I hope this helps you, and I will be praying for you

Topic: Feel Better Support Group / boyfriend problems-someone help please!

Hello there, I am sorry for your current situation with your boyfriend. Unfortunately, I have been on both sides of this type of situation and understand completely where you are coming from. A lot of times someone has in their head a certain type of happy go lucky, prince and princess fantasy, where everything is supposed to work out completely, both people are pure, and everyone lives happily ever after. As you and I both know, that is not the world we live in. I remember after a rough patch with my wife that I felt like I couldn’t trust her and was suspicious every time she left the house without me. In reality, I was simply insecure and didn’t know how to handle it and would say things similar to what your boyfriend says to you now. The one thing that really helped was when she sat me down and simply told me, look I cannot change the past, all I can do is try to make our future better. If you want to be with me, then we have to accept the past and move on or all we are going to do is fight and never really be happy. I hope this has helped you in some way, and I will be praying for you.

Topic: Feel Better Support Group / problems

This is a very awkward situation and a very complicated one as well. As for moving, I moved when I as 17 out of my parents house because of problems with my stepfather and as much as I thought it would be better, it really wasn’t. I moved into a friends guesthouse and it was terrible. I had everything I needed, which was a bathroom, bedroom, a somewhat living room, and a kitchen. The problem was now since I moved out, my part-time job became more of full-time job since I had to pay for my phone and rent. I also had to get food, which was not as bad because I was working at Taco Bell and as for the electricity and cable, my friend’s parents helped with those two. At first everything did not seem so bad, but since I had no major rules to follow and no supervision, I ended up getting a girl pregnant my senior year. The point I am trying to make is that even though it seems really bad now, just try to stay and make things work, and if that fails, try to talk to your teachers and school counselors and let them know what is happening at home and they might be able to help.
As for your cousin, simply close your door, put on some music, and since she does not listen to you, just do not listen to her. One thing that I have found very helpful is to talk with one of your close friends’ parents and let them know what is going on. They might be able to help if you and your dad or you and your cousin get into and might let you come over for a bit to let things cool down. I hope this has helped in someway, I will be praying that things get better soon.

Topic: Feel Better Support Group / I want to stop taking Benzos...help!

I’ve been prescribed Xanax for over 4 years and was just recently switched to Ativan. Ever since, I feel awful! I’ve known for a couple of years that I’ve wanted to quit taking them, but my anxiety is quite severe. Since I switched over to Ativan I seem to be experiencing withdrawal-like symptoms….(cold sweats, severe headaches, night sweats, lethargy, severe anxiety). I have a stockpile of Xanax left over from my prescription so sometimes I’ll take the Xanax instead of the Ativan. I’ve done some research and I know that Ativan kicks in slower than Xanax, and also that Ativan is about half as strong as Xanax mg for mg. I don’t abuse these meds in any way, but they really have become like a crutch or safety net for me. I panic if I leave the house without them and I feel better just having them with me. I don’t have a lot of medical support, as I am an out of state college student and I can only get back home (where my parents’ insurance covers it) to see a doctor once every 6 months. I have enough Benzos to gradually cut down my dosage. Its just awful because I feel crappy if I take them, but worse if I don’t. If anyone has any experience with long-term benzo use and withdrawal I’d really appreciate any suggestions you can offer.

Topic: Feel Better Support Group / boyfriend problems-someone help please!

my boyfriend and i used to work together, we did not start of on the best terms, d rumors just flew around everywhere. he believes all the rumors to this day. before we started dating, he was in his previous relationship for 6 years. when she broke up with him, it completely destroyed him. he is very insecure now. his vision for his future was that he wanted a virgin so that he was never compared to anyone. i am not a virgin and because of that he think and looks at me as a slut. i have reassured him that his visions he has of me are false but in his head he cant get over what he has heard. he wants to physically and emotionally move on but cant. can anyone give me advice how i can help him forget about my past and work on the present and move towards the future?

Topic: Feel Better Support Group / Relationship and other troubles with parents

My mom most of the time says negative things about and thinks things wrong about me. She things I’m not normal and don’t have any friends and she just complains on the littlest things. For example,she says I have too much hoodies and should change style. They even complain about me wearing a hoodie during dinner time they says it’s because it is not cold in the house.That last time I ever heard her say something nice to me was when I got honor roll(good grades). I never cry not even when watching a sad movie.The only reason I cry because my parents did something to me. I really don’t want cry but it’s just so hard not to. My mom was even thinking about sending to private school just because how I act at home. At school the teachers have no problems with me but at home my parents always have a problem with. I have alot of friends. I just don’t want her to know about them. I usually keep most things to myself with my parents because everything is so embarrassing around them. What I should do or where or how should I get help?

Topic: Feel Better Support Group / problems

i have a little cuz and she comes every weekend and i live with my dad and mom and usally im in charge of my cousin but she got bad wasnt listening to me so i told her shes not allowed to come anymore and she had a second chance and messed that up well she turned around and got my dad yelling at me and got him to let her come and my dad lets her do whatever she wants and gives in to her all the time and my da tells to stay out of it hes in charge of her now when she comes and tells me if i dont like it i can move and her parents drink every weekend and let her and the other kids go whare they please just so they have fun idk if i should move or what i cant take my cousin coming and getting out of control

Topic: Feel Better Support Group / HELP PlzZzZz

mmmmm I hope she can understand that I am willing to help her
she loves to be the one who is in-charge … you know i recognize that
being single is much peaceful time than any thing else

but what we can do this the live mmm

Topic: Feel Better Support Group / toxic relationship and a lot of underlying issues out. out of ideas out of hope

Hey there, I am very sorry for your current situation and I myself am working through the same type of problem. I am a married man and my wife about 3 years ago had something with another man and I have had a very hard time being able to truly forgive her and get past it. The hard truth that I have realized is that that moment will always be with you, even if it is just in the back of your mind. Secondly, our special people maybe flirts, but they may not be doing it on purpose. My wife has told me several times if I catch her flirting to just stop her because she does not always realize that she is doing it. Talk with him and really let him know how much it is hurting you and if cares about you then he will work on being better about it. Third, the best thing to do is to stop living in the past and try looking forward to positive things in the future, and even though the situation with him cheating might stay with you, it will not be in the front of you mind, better and happier things will be there. I have felt all of those depressing, angering, and just mad thoughts and feelings, but you have to take the first step to pull yourself away and just really do you best to try and move forward. I hope this helps you in anyway

Topic: Feel Better Support Group / toxic relationship and a lot of underlying issues out. out of ideas out of hope

I’ve been battling depression for aproximately 7 years but it has gotten progresively worse in the last 4 years I’ve been with my fiance. I’m very insecure and my fiance is a very attractive man who made the mistake of cheating on me once in the past and I’ve attempted to forgive him but I don’t think it’s possible for me to actually forgive him. its been 3 years since he cheated on me but girls flirt with him and try to hookup with him constantly and its starting to take a huge toll on me I love my fiance more then anything but I think he’s kind of a flirt and gives women the wrong idea even though we are from a small town and everyone knows we are together. everytime I see or hear about another woman flirting with him I get really angry and upset I start to cry and shake uncontrolibly I need some advice on either how to split from my toxic relationship and not feel so upset or I need advice on how to deal with my anger cause its getting so out of control that sometimes I just don’t want to live cause I’m so inscure and angry and terrified of being alone. I know when you read this your going to realize I have a lot of underlying issues and emotions that i haven’t learned how to deal with and honestly I don’t know where to start I’ve had 3 councelors but none of them have helped I running out of ideas and hope

Topic: Relationships / toxic relationship and a lot of underlying issues out. out of ideas out of hope

I’ve been battling depression for aproximately 7 years but it has gotten progresively worse in the last 4 years I’ve been with my fiance. I’m very insecure and my fiance is a very attractive man who made the mistake of cheating on me once in the past and I’ve attempted to forgive him but I don’t think it’s possible for me to actually forgive him. its been 3 years since he cheated on me but girls flirt with him and try to hookup with him constantly and its starting to take a huge toll on me I love my fiance more then anything but I think he’s kind of a flirt and gives women the wrong idea even though we are from a small town and everyone knows we are together. everytime I see or hear about another woman flirting with him I get really angry and upset I start to cry and shake uncontrolibly I need some advice on either how to split from my toxic relationship and not feel so upset or I need advice on how to deal with my anger cause its getting so out of control that sometimes I just don’t want to live cause I’m so inscure and angry and terrified of being alone. I know when you read this your going to realize I have a lot of underlying issues and emotions that i haven’t learned how to deal with and honestly I don’t know where to start I’ve had 3 councelors but none of them have helped I running out of ideas and hope

Topic: Relationships / Trouble with parents

My mom most of the time says negative things about and thinks things wrong about me. She things I’m not normal and don’t have any friends and she just complains on the littlest things. For example,she says I have too much hoodies and should change style. They even complain about me wearing a hoodie during dinner time they says it’s because it is not cold in the house.That last time I ever heard her say something nice to me was when I got honor roll(good grades). I never cry not even when watching a sad movie.The only reason I cry because my parents did something to me. I really don’t want cry but it’s just so hard not to. My mom was even thinking about sending to private school just because how I act at home. At school the teachers have no problems with me but at home my parents always have a problem with. I have alot of friends. I just don’t want her to know about them. I usually keep most things to myself with my parents because everything is so embarrassing around them.

Topic: Feel Better Support Group / Doesn't seem like much....

Hello, I am very sorry that all of this has happened to you. I have gone through several similar problems, but not to the extreme extent that you have gone through. First, being a kind and generous person is always good, but you and I both know that if you are too nice then people will take advantage of you. The only way I have found to really help solve this is try to limit yourself on the nice things you do and if your friends are still doing this to you and turning their backs on you, then they do not deserve a friend like you. I know that is easier said than done, I know from experience, but after doing this for a while it becomes second nature and then your self esteem will get much better. As for your friends just leaving you all by yourself, like I said they do not deserve a friend like you and you need to try and find some new friends. Now trust is also a very big issue and this is one that does not come easy at all. This is a slow process, but just start with a person or two and then slowly it will get better. I have had an alcoholic friend who died, an abusive and alcoholic father, been picked on and mocked and neglected, the same as you, so I understand what is happening with you. I will be praying for you and hope this advice helps, even if it is only a little bit

Topic: Feel Better Support Group / Feel Better Friday - New Year?

GOOD MORNING ON THIS FEEL BETTER FRIDAY!

So how is your “New Year” going? Is there anything new about it? Did you make resolutions? I was never one to do them because I thought I should be making them year round but the only thing we can be sure of is that what works for me may not work for you. We are all unique and different and that’s what makes the world go round. Celebrate your difference instead of trying to fit into some mold that YOU think OTHERS want you to fit in. You are the only one that lives in your body so respect it because it’s yours.
Viva la difference. Celebrate your difference. LOVE your difference.
Love and Light,
Coach Yvonne

Topic: Feel Better Support Group / Doesn't seem like much....

Hey you guys… I don’t like resorting to these things but I’ve lost everyone. Really I feel ashamed of complaining about anything! People have it worse off that me. I’m always the first to help and give.. Sometimes it’s too much though. I’m so kind that I’m easy to manipulate.. I guess I should start from the beginning to explain why I’m here. I grew up in a truly dysfunctional family! Both parents have been married 3 times and I’ve been abused/mistreated/neglected all my life. This is by friend and family alike… physical and mental. Through this I’m extremely kind to people instead of cold except I don’t trust people so I don’t talk to anyone about my own problems. People see me as the happy girl that nothing happens to and is always giving. Well lately I’ve been getting better. My mom married a guy that is amazing to us and she stopped drinking… I’m off in college on a full ride. I thought I might finally be getting that happy life that everyone talks about and I try to fake. Still nothing… I am losing the friends that I’m letting in because they all back stab me which is making it seem like being closed off to people really was the best… there aren’t people to trust. I tried to love someone but learned fast that trusting people ruins that too… I was out crying today because I told a guy no so now all my friends are turning their backs on me even more and he’s trying to get my boyfriend to turn on me too.. It doesn’t get better. Life never gets better. I do believe their is a god… I’ve read the bible… I use to go to church before I was put in a city that doesn’t have one I can get to. I even prayed up until recently… I honestly don’t know what to do. I’m emotionally exhausted of all this mess… 13 (I’m 18 so before that is a blur) years of not stop abuse if not physical then emotional/mental from everyone around me. When does it stop? Someone help…

Topic: Feel Better Support Group / HELP PlzZzZz

Many times in situations like this, that person is so caught up in whatever is going on in their head that they are looking for the quickest, easiest target to blame. One of the hardest lessons, but the best, is that you have to realize that this is not your fault, no matter what they say. It sounds to me like she really needs more help than you might be able to provide, especially with the comment about leaving even if she dies. I hope that she will be able to get the help she needs and that you remember that this is not your fault and that you have and are doing the best you can

Topic: Feel Better Support Group / Advice Needed

That sounds wonderful and I am so glad that you remembering on taking time for yourself. As you and I both know, it does take time to heal, but the fact that you are on the right path is very encouraging

Topic: Feel Better Support Group / Reply to Nova on Bad Memories Closet

Hi!
Sorry I wasn’t online yesterday. I lost the weight (which has been a struggle off and on for my whole life) by exercising and really counting calaries. I started by exercising only 5 minutes a day, and eventually worked up to 1 1/2 or more a day. I count every calarie and don’t eat anything after 6:30 p.m. Also, I drink tons of water.
How do I feel about my body? That is hard to answer, but I’m not entirely happy with it.

Cinderella

Topic: Feel Better Support Group / Advice Needed

Things are starting to get better I feel. I working more on myself as I often forget to take time for myself. I figure time will heal. I working on composing letters to those who I wish to keep relationships with. I haven’t sent them yet as they aren’t quite how I want them, but will be doing that in the near future. Thanks for checking up!

Topic: Depression / Is it what I fear it is??

Some times I do think I might be on the brink of depression with the crying, the lack of motivation, self medicating, never wanting to go outside and the thoughts but I never go threw with them because I never start or finish anything! I feel that I need to be unhappy by pushing my boyfriend and friends away, I don’t deserve to be happy I guess.

But then I think ‘yes I do deserve to be happy! I can achieve things and go on to do great things’ then I try thinking of the things I want to achieve and then its back to the self hating again, like a passing cloud.

Its a circle I don’t want to live in. I don’t think my boyfriend can take much more either but I don’t want to loose him! He thinks I just need to ‘lighten up’, easier said then done!

Any advise / stories will help.

Thanks everyone!

Topic: Feel Better Support Group / HELP PlzZzZz

jrp6048

Thank you for your supporting me through this difficult time … life is really strange you know I tried to help her in an issue and things does not work based on what she want she got upset and asked me to leave her even if she die what an attitude sometimes I doubt that she is an adult … OMG what she is expecting from me I’m doing my best while instead of appreciating me she is acting as if I’m the reason behind her problem.

Topic: Feel Better Support Group / Child of an Alcoholic

I am simply glad just to be able to provide some assistance to those in rough times and I have been in those times before and can usually relate to whatever their issue. Thank you and God Bless you and all of your colleagues because this website is just such a wonderful place for many to get the help and advice they need

Topic: Feel Better Support Group / Do I have an Eating Disorder?

Hi Megan!

Please give me an update! I’m thinking of you.

Hugs. Nova