Hello & Welcome To The Relationships Forum

Hello and welcome. My name is Dr. Kathy Nickerson and I will be one of the facilitators for this forum. As a couples therapist and relationship specialist, it’s my pleasure to join you here and offer any helpful advice that I can.

Warmly,
Dr. Kathy Nickerson

i am so upset and i dont think that there is anything that i can do. i just want to talk to someone.

Hello So Sorry. We are here for you. I’m glad you are reaching out during this difficult time. Talking about your feelings is a good place to start the path on feeling better. When it seems there are no solutions to what ever you are facing, talking to others and gathering information will open new possibilities for you.

We are here to help.

Hello, Dr. Kathy. I had a big problem. I think I will tell a little bit about my family. I live in my grandma’s house since I was a baby. But, when I was 13 my father left me with no reason. When I was 14 I realized that my father left me because of another woman. So, my parents was divorced when I was 16. I always had a BIG conflict with my grandma. But the BIGGEST 1 is I almost want to kill her, throw her glass to her head, until I want suicide. I don’t know why I was very angry. It happens spontaneously. I always like that. Sometimes I angry and 5 mintues later I cry. I don’t know what happen to me. Actually I had a conflict with my best friend who lived in South Korea, too. They forgetting me because of their job as a boyband. Especially, on my birthday. They don’t want to phone me. I don’t know why. I got a heartache because of that. Please help me. I don’t know what am I supposed to do.

Hi Annysha. It sounds like you are really suffering and feeling very alone. I’m glad you reached out for help. Anger is an interesting emotion that can over take you if you do not identify and express it in a safe way. Anger is like a boiling pot of water, if you keep a lid on the boiling pot, what happens? It will boil over and singe everything around it. Learning to release your anger in a healthy way will help.

You have a lot of hurt described in your post, feelings of abandonment, and resentment. It’s important you get help to feel better with everything you’ve described. Please search through our Find A Professional section for a counselor in your area. Often times, local universities offer low to no cost counseling through their psychology graduate programs. The important thing is to start talking to someone who can help you turn your boiling pot of anger down to a simmer, provide you with support, and give you tools to cope and hopefully repair your relationships.

We will be here for you to connect with and help you through this.

Please keep us posted.

Warmly,

Life Coach Nova

LifeCoachNova-
Are we going to continue our conversation?
You said that you have a couple more questons for me. This is in regards to “I need more opinions please” fro myself. I have been waiting for your comment

Hi Lavendergirl. :)

I will post following our conversation in the relationship forum.

Warmly,

Life Coach Nova

Life Coach Nova- I replied. FYI

Hi Lavendergirl. How are you doing? I’m checking in with you and have been thinking of you. I’m here on Wednesdays and check in over the weekend too. Please let us know how you are doing. :)

With Care,

Life Coach Nova

Hello Dr. Kathy this is my first time really doing anything like this and im kinda nervous. I just have alot of feelings building up expecially since my parents divorced, and i get clingy i guess, i dont know what to do about that

Hi LivingMyDream. Welcome to FBN, we’re so happy to have you with us. Tell me a little more, what types of thoughts and feelings have you noticed since your parents divorced?

Hugs,
Dr. Kathy

Hi.

I found out Sunday my boyfriend of 4 years has been part of a national swingers/sex club. He made a mistake by leaving the email account open on our computer. We have been together since 9/2006 and the emails started 1/23/2007- 4/2010.

I feel like our entire relationship has been based on lies and decite. He claims that he never met anyone (both male and female) in person, but the emails tell differently.

I left my career, family and friends to move to CA to be with him and now I find this out.

What should I do!?!

Hi Cathais. Oh, I am so sorry, that must have come as quite a shock. There are several steps to take…

1. Try to stay calm and relax a bit. My hunch is that right now, you are really upset and hurt. Rightfully so. But in order to think about how to move forward, you need a clear head. Try to gear down, relax, exercise, do things that help you feel safe and calm.

2. Take a step back and analyze. What do you know for sure? What other information do you need?

3. If you decide to stay, what do you need from your BF to start rebuilding trust?

Hang in there, it will get better, we’re here for you!

Hi, I have a problem. I’ve been married to my husband for 15yrs and recently he started complaining about me going out with friends and tells me that married people don’t need to hang out with friends, only with their spouses. He hardly helps around the house. He will clean the house and do little yard work and that’s it. I’m stuck washing clothes, cooking, helping kids with homework, grocery shopping, etc. It’s like he wants to have this control over me and I’m sick of it. It never bothered him years ago, but now he is having a realy problem with it. There’s nothing wrong with going out with friends once in a while. He don’t really like going out, he rather stay home and watch movies. To me I think all the fuss he’s making all of a sudden means that he has interest in someone else and wants to have an excuse to end our marriage. What do you think? I need some advice.

Hi NB7. Thank you for sharing. It may be that your husband senses you are sick of his behavior and feels insecure right now.

Are spending any time alone together?

How is your love life?

Have you in the past had a fun activity you enjoyed doing together?

What do you wish you had more of in your relationship?

Looking forward to hearing back.

Warmly,

Nova

Hi I am hoping that there is someone on here that can help me. I am very depressed, I need someone to talk to. I was in a bad relationship for 2 years and was finally able to get away from it. Shortly after, I met the man of my dreams. He pretty much saved me and got me through that tough time. We were so special to each other, at least I thought so. He left me on monday. I am having a really bad time with this. He let me open my heart and trust again. I really am not understanding how he could do this to me after knowing what I went through and the trust that I had in him. I am so lonely and dont know how much longer I can keep it together.