Life is falling apart

im 16 and my mom lost her job two months ago. She still hasn’t found one and things seem to be getting worse. Im about to lose my cell phone, i dont hang out with my friends anymore and i might have to change schools. Its really hard for me to make new friends that I trust like the ones I have there. the hardest part to deal with is that i dont have a good relationship with my mom and I dont really talk to her,(This has been going on for awhile and probably wont change)but, when i ask if I could go hang out with my friends she says things like “no we cant go that far”,“your so inconsiderate” etc. that make me feel like a bad person for wanting to have a life. I also cant stand that its time for me to start making plans for college and not being sure if i can afford it. Im really concerned about my future. I have a younger brother and sister but they dont seem as affected by this as I do.
This has happened before about four years ago and knowing that if a change does come soon makes it harder to look forward to tomorrow. Football is the only time I actually completely forget about my problems but it also stops me from getting a job to help. what can I do to help? How can i calm myself down?

Hi Woe16. I’m so glad you are with us. Financial pressure at any age can feel overwhelming. It sounds like your family is going through a difficult time. Do you have any contact with your dad? What’s your relationship like with him?

I’m so glad you have football for an outlet. The physical release of stress will help, being part of a team, and having time just for you … all very important.

You do need social time too. Do you ever have friends over? What do you like to do for fun?

It sounds like you feel so much pressure and stress. Have you shared with your mom how you are feeling?

Looking forward to hearing back.

Warmly,

Nova