boyfriend problems-someone help please!

my boyfriend and i used to work together, we did not start of on the best terms, d rumors just flew around everywhere. he believes all the rumors to this day. before we started dating, he was in his previous relationship for 6 years. when she broke up with him, it completely destroyed him. he is very insecure now. his vision for his future was that he wanted a virgin so that he was never compared to anyone. i am not a virgin and because of that he think and looks at me as a slut. i have reassured him that his visions he has of me are false but in his head he cant get over what he has heard. he wants to physically and emotionally move on but cant. can anyone give me advice how i can help him forget about my past and work on the present and move towards the future?

Hello there, I am sorry for your current situation with your boyfriend. Unfortunately, I have been on both sides of this type of situation and understand completely where you are coming from. A lot of times someone has in their head a certain type of happy go lucky, prince and princess fantasy, where everything is supposed to work out completely, both people are pure, and everyone lives happily ever after. As you and I both know, that is not the world we live in. I remember after a rough patch with my wife that I felt like I couldn’t trust her and was suspicious every time she left the house without me. In reality, I was simply insecure and didn’t know how to handle it and would say things similar to what your boyfriend says to you now. The one thing that really helped was when she sat me down and simply told me, look I cannot change the past, all I can do is try to make our future better. If you want to be with me, then we have to accept the past and move on or all we are going to do is fight and never really be happy. I hope this has helped you in some way, and I will be praying for you.